If You Could Never Tell Anyone About Your Wins, Would You Still Bet?

[DublinDegen]

i post everything online... wins losses screenshots... probably seeking validation from strangers because i dont have real relationships... betting replaced actual friendships... social media likes replaced real connection...

 

[CoachTony_Bets]

Conor that's really sad man. And really honest.

Have you thought about reconnecting with people offline?

 

[DublinDegen]

sometimes... but easier to just post online... less risk... people have to like or ignore... cant reject me properly...

 

[TaffyTipster]

Mate that's rough.

You need real mates not Instagram likes.

 

[Klaus]

Conor's situation illustrates extreme end of validation-seeking behavior.

Social media engagement replacing genuine human connection.

Concerning pattern.

 

[ParlayPrincess_88]

Conor you should try meeting betting friends in real life!

Like a meetup or something!

 

[DublinDegen]

maybe... doubt anyone wants to meet me though... im just the problem gambler in the forum...

 

[SharpEddie47]

Conor you're more than that. You're honest and self-aware, which is valuable.

But yeah, online validation isn't a substitute for real relationships.

 

[FadeThePublic]

Back to the original question: I think most of us would still bet if we couldn't tell anyone.

But we'd enjoy it less. Which proves validation IS part of the reward.

 

[CoachTony_Bets]

I'd still bet but yeah, probably enjoy it less.

The "I told you so" moment when my analysis proves correct matters to me.

 

[TaffyTipster]

I'd still bet on Wales regardless.

But other sports? If I couldn't tell the lads about my wins?

Probably bet less.

 

[ParlayPrincess_88]

Okay you guys are making me think!

Maybe I DO bet partly for the attention!

Like hitting a big parlay and posting it feels amazing!

Is that wrong??

 

[SharpEddie47]

Not wrong Princess, just important to understand your actual motivations.

If you're betting to get Instagram likes, that's concerning.

If you bet for profit and ALSO enjoy sharing wins, that's fine.

 

[Klaus]

Motivation hierarchy critical:

Primary motivation: profit = healthy
Primary motivation: validation = unhealthy

Secondary motivation can be anything.

 

[oli_sussex]

Agree with Klaus framework.

Validation as secondary benefit acceptable. As primary driver problematic.

 

[ParlayPrincess_88]

Okay so profit first, sharing second!

I think that's me!

I definitely want the money!

 

[FadeThePublic]

Test: would you bet the same amount if you couldn't tell anyone?

 

[ParlayPrincess_88]

Um... probably? Maybe slightly less?

Okay this is hard to answer!

 

[CoachTony_Bets]

That hesitation is revealing Princess.

If the answer isn't immediate "yes," then validation is more important than you realized.

 

[TaffyTipster]

Honest question for the group: has anyone here ever NOT told people about a big win?

Like kept it completely secret?