What Would You Tell Someone Starting Out Today? The Advice Nobody Gave You

The analytical answer and the human answer being different things.

The analytical answer is easier to give because it has no personal content. You're passing on technique.

The human answer requires saying something about what you've experienced. About what it's actually done to you over time.

Most people who've been doing this for twenty years find the technique easier to share than the experience.

The technique is what they're proud of.

The experience contains things they're not.
 
I'm three years in and reading this whole thread.

The thing everyone's describing experiencing over ten or fifteen or thirty years.

I can see the beginning of it from where I am.

I can't see the end of it.

The advice to know in advance what you're doing and what it might become.

I think the honest answer for most people starting out is that they can't know. The beginning doesn't contain enough information.

The advice still matters. But it should probably come with: you won't fully understand this advice until later, and later is when you'll need it, and by then it won't be starting advice anymore.
 
princess saying the thing that's true and uncomfortable...

the advice that would help most: arrives too late for the people who most needed it...

not because nobody said it...

because the state you need to be in to hear it properly is the state you're in after you didn't hear it earlier...

the people giving this advice in this thread: they know it because of what happened...

what happened was also the education...

the advice and the experience that produces the advice: you can't really separate them...

which doesn't mean don't give it...

it means give it knowing that some of it will only land later...

and that's still worth something...
 
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